Let's Talk About Self-Sabotage

The most frustrating part of the personal growth journey

Is recognizing that you are the one in your own way and not having a damn clue why you’re sabotaging yourself

You see your success
You see what you could have
You understand what you should be doing
But for whatever reason, you’re just not letting yourself have it

This was such a painful story for me anytime I reached a new level
I knew exactly what I wanted and I knew the steps I had to take to move in that direction
But then I just wouldn’t

Market my products? No way. Even if people would ask about them I would get a lump in my throat
Go live. Yeah I could do that. Great idea. Then I would never ever go live
Ask to be a guest on podcasts? Beautiful idea. I’ll do that eventually...but look this other thing needs my attention right now

The truth is I was scared shitless. And I was so angry because I knew that I was the one in my own way. I knew part of that was fear. But no matter how much I journaled and meditated and tapped and learned, I still found myself reluctant to create the kind of success that I wanted

Because success scared me!

So after YEARS of grinding away at this, I hired someone to help me. I realized that I was simply too close to my own behaviors and patterns to truly observe them in a way that would create transformation

My only wish is that I had hired someone sooner

The money will come back. Whether you invest in a book, a course, a retreat or a coach. But your time will never come back

How much longer are you willing to be frustrated, stressed out and lost in comparison? How much longer do you want to say why not me?

This is the question I asked myself whenever I felt called to invest but ego tried to convince me to sit in fear

I reminded myself of what I had to gain. Then I made the conscious choice to choose my present and future, not my past

Start somewhere and remember how much value there is in doing it with support

The #1 Thing Any Spiritual Entrepreneur needs to Know

The most important lesson I have ever learned on my journey is to seek support BEFORE I felt like I “needed it”

The thing is, like a lot of people, I was used to my pain

I thought that’s just how things were and subconsciously I never gave myself permission to seek support unless it was at excruciating levels of discomfort

Otherwise I was just complaining for no reason

Sure the pain sucked, but I was used to it and I didn’t feel like I had the right to seek support unless I was desperate or about to break

But waiting until you hit rock bottom before you seek support not only isn’t healthy or helpful

It is also a form of self-sabotage

So the form of self-love I taught myself and now support my clients in, is acknowledging that you do not have to sit with discomfort and pain simply because you are used to it or it could be worse

If it is within your ability to seek support, whether that be from a coach, a book, a podcast, a therapist or just a friend who really can hold space for you, then please give yourself permission to access that support NOW

BEFORE you feel like you need it

Because odds are, society has taught you to believe that you only need it when you can no longer tolerate that pain anymore

But why should you have to suffer immensely before you’re allowed to seek help? You shouldn’t

Find the support that you are able to access from where you are, and make it okay to seek it