I am so close to returning back to alignment, and in the spirit of doing so (and a break for all of the heaviness of previous posts), I want to bring you a life changing lesson that kicked my ass into action mode. I'm all about listening to your body and spirit. I don't believe in the hustle and grind. I believe in you living your life in a way that makes you happy. I am for you defining what that means to you. Yet, I am an overachiever, and I am happy with that identity. Part of my sense of fulfillment comes from knowing that I am accomplishing important tasks (note that I decide what is important). So (as you already know), when I was feeling uninspired and could not take action that felt meaningful to me, I spiraled.
I tried to lovingly accept this phase, but after a month, I found that I could no longer stand being so unproductive. So, in the kindest way possible, I kicked my own ass into gear. If you want to know the exact details of this process, then I suggest you listen to episode 65 of the Manifestation Babe podcast . If you just want the quick breakdown that worked for me. Girl, I had to associate a massive amount of pain to inaction. I already had a clear vision of what I wanted my future to look like. My why was a little shaky, but I feel like I intuitively know why I continue to work on Quarter-Life Queen. What I needed was leverage on myself. It just so happened that forcing myself to confront the reality of what it means to continue to do nothing. So, allow me to paint a picture for you.
Continuing on the path that I was on, meant giving up on my ideal future. It meant settling for good enough. It meant settling for happy enough. My dreams of the nice house, the beautiful vacations for me and my family, my gorgeous office and amazing team, having the flexibility to set my own schedule, traveling wherever I wanted etc.. all of the literally shattered and fluttered away when I allowed myself to trace the path I was currently on. I started this whole thing because I was determined to live by my own standards. I was tired of other people telling me what life is and what it could be. I was tired of dismissing my dreams as unrealistic. But most importantly, I wanted to help all of you live according to your own standards too!
Forcing myself to confront the pain of what giving up means, pushed me back into action. Almost a year ago, I wrote a post about our callings. I wrote that we are called to do the things that other people need the most. It was painful for me to think that I was about to silence my own voice and message, not only because that meant shattering my dreams, but because that meant that I would never reach the person that needed to hear my message the most.
So, I want to remind you that your calling has a purpose and a meaning. You have undoubtedly encountered a person, a book, a song, a podcast, a blog that changed the game for you. Don't underestimate the fact that you are that person for someone else. Even if you don't even know it yet.
Hello, Insta plug. If you're not already following the quarter life queens instagram, you should! There I post small bursts of inspiring messages multiple times a week. And look the link is right here