Hello my queen,
I'm calling this Shar's selfish time only because QLQ is about empowering people to develop the courage to pursue their dreams. Of course, that looks different to everyone, but this post goes to all of my beautiful queens who are also trying to build businesses in the online space.
I don't think you need to force yourself to show up on every social media platform to start to build up your business.
I shared with your previously
some of the fears
that I had (and am still working through) about
showing up on certain social media platforms (I'm looking at you Instagram😐). And while I completely believe in working through your limiting beliefs, I also know how frustrating it is to be in this space of fear and feel like it is something that is holding you and your business back. In fact, I posted this very real and vulnerable story in one of the business Facebook groups I am a part of (and got much lovely support and advice).
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Hi everyone,
I just want to take a moment to be really vulnerable
Social media terrifies me.
While a lot of this fear is made up of internal problems I am working through, I’ve decided that it doesn’t mean that I can’t ask for help.
I am absolutely scared shitless of making myself and my brand visible on social media.
Yes, I know that this a limiting belief. Caring what other people think, attaching my sense of worth as a business woman to the opinion of the few, focusing on what could go wrong and not what could go right, etc, etc. I know this, but the issue I’m having is that the fear isn’t imaginary. And that makes it so much harder to shake.
There are people who will say nasty things, who will judge, who will want to see you fail. And while there will be so many more people who love you and support you and are inspired by you and want to see you flourish, I am still terrified of the potential hate. And that fear is stopping me from showing up on social media platforms like twitter, Instagram and Facebook as a business and reaching the wonderful people I am trying to reach. And I want to release it.
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You can hear what I am working through. This is very real me at my most insecure. But I'm here to tell you that working through a limiting belief is a process. You can know the limiting belief backwards and forwards, but you have to be ready to confront and replace it I am sick and tired of feeling like I'm a bad business woman for not being on Instagram and Facebook. And I'm TIRED of the pressure that this is placing on my fellow entrepreneurial babes who don't feel ready to show up in all of these places. And I KNOW that I am not the only one who feels this way.
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I want you to know that you are not shooting yourself in the business foot by deciding to not show up in these space yet. And I want you to know that because that is what I need to know, but what no one told me. You can do business in the online space your way, and trust me, my love. You will get to the place where you are comfortable with showing up in more places.
So, I'm not just going to leave you with a reminder that it's okay to be human and need time to work through thing. No, you are here reading this post because you feel like you're not doing all you can do to promote your business in the online space by not showing up on social media.
I'm not going to tell you to get over it and show up anyway, because that's not helpful. But I am going to tell that it is completely okay for you to show up in the spaces that you feel most safe and comfortable while you work on building the courage and skin to show up in other places. I have two platforms that I feel most comfortable showing up in.
- This blog (yes, my darling, your blog is a platform)
- Pinterest
And you know what, queen. That is ENOUGH! You show up in those spaces as your most vibrant beautiful, confident self because that is how you feel in those spaces. This will attract the people you are looking for and help you reframe your idea about what showing up on social media looks like.
And this works, love. As you supply your mind with evidence that diminishes or disproves the fear, the limiting belief will shrink. While I'm still not ready to conquer Instagram, I feel a lot more comfortable adding twitter to my rotation of social media platforms, and I know that Facebook is something I will also add because I feel it get less scary every day.
So, take a look around and ask yourself, where do I feel most comfortable and safe showing up. Then just put your all into it and know that it is enough for now, because that is where you are now.
As always, I hope you enjoyed this blog. If you did, please do leave me a comment as I would love to connect with my fellow queens.
Much love always,
Shar