I am trying to up-level my life right now and break through all of the bullshit that is holding me back. I have been doing really well, but by now you know this is easier said than done. Some of those limiting beliefs and stories go deep, so they leave me terrified to up-level and I resist both consciously and subconsciously. Quarter-Life Queen is really taking off and part of me is absolutely terrified because I know what this has the potential to be. Today I want to talk to you about all of the unexpected ways playing small has manifested in my life. It is my hope that by reading this, perhaps you can gain some clarity about why you are resisting, even though you really want to go for it.
- Low emotions: I expected playing small to manifest as fear of the unknown. Instead, one of the main ways playing small manifested in my life is sadness and loss of inspiration. I just didn't have the energy or desire to do anything. I got home, laid in bed and stared at the ceiling. As you know this is only so much more annoying when you don't know why you feel this way. Girl, let me tell you I realized these emotions were popping up because I was afraid of really going for it.
- Anger: I was short tempered. There is no other way to say that. I thought everyone was stupid and I dared whoever was next to me to even breath. And anger is a very difficult emotion because it actually hurts. The thing about anger is that I could use it to justify inaction. I wouldn't have to do anything because I was pissed off. I was so pissed I would even snap at the parts of me that insisted that I do more. Plus I don't believe in entering my business spaces with heavy emotions because like everything they have energy and that's not the energy I want my business to have.
- Lack of inspiration: I am usually so inspired and that is because I have a very vivid imagination. Plus I decided that I would follow the ideas that I had just to see where they would take me. But I didn't have anything to write about, no projects that I felt called to work on. No desire to even move. If I didn't have anything to push me and my business forward, then I could stay exactly where I was which while mediocre was familiar and comfortable.
- Refusal to do things I know will help: By now you know that I have a few different techniques to break out of a funk. I like to think that I know myself pretty well, so I know when it's time to deliver a swift kick to the behind. However, as I got closer and closer to the success I was seeking out, I refused to do any of the things that I knew would make me feel better. No crystals, no workouts, no journaling, no podcasts or PD books. I was just lost in the fog of my own misery but I was refusing to let myself out.
- Withdrawing from others: It's no secret that you can draw energy and inspiration from others. If ever I am feeling down, hanging out with someone who inspires me is a great way to perk up. But, I didn't want to hangout with anyone. There is nothing wrong with alone time, but I was definitely isolating myself. I was uninspired and sad, so I stuck to myself and stayed locked away with my own thoughts.
- Panic Attacks: Girl, even though I a lot of amazing things were happening and working out, I was still stressing out. It's like one thing would get fixed and my mind would immediately try to find the next thing to worry about. Then it would grow, and I would panic. I struggled to breath, I thought I would die, the room would spin. Let me tell you as someone who has had a couple anxiety disorders, I had more panic attacks in this period of my life than any other. I'm talking like multiple times a day shit. This was emotionally and spiritually exhausting, but I couldn't stop. Since I was spinning in circles, I didn't have to move forward.
- Refusing to own up to my problems: Our problems are fucking scary. Maybe not in comparison to a lot of other people's problems, but in our own minds. I can say that the things that I worried about were honestly terrifying. Like a monster in a closet that you know is about to rip your head off. I constantly felt like I was preparing for battle, so I did what most people do, and that's refuse to think about it. I ignored a lot of my problems and hoped that they would just go away. But by doing that I stripped myself of my own power. By refusing to acknowledge how I was at fault for the issues in my life, I was not allowing myself to grow and learn from them. Instead, I could blame outside circumstances, divine punishment or just bad luck for where my life was at that moment. By doing that I put myself back in victim mode and allowed myself to become an unlucky person.
I hope you enjoyed this post. LOL it actually took me days to write.
Until next time, Queen!