Happy Friday and end of March. I am so excited that it is April. Number 1, because I am going on vacation, two because it's family time and three because it's Spring! So, I want to have some real talk with you. I have been reflecting quite a bit over these last few weeks. You know, trying to get aligned and working to understand myself in every season and all that (not the literal seasons, but this time it did happen to coincide with the arrival of spring).
And I got to thinking about emotions. I mentioned in a previous post that I learned from James Wedmore that it's not how you feel, it's how you feel about how you feel. I knew this, but I had forgotten in the hustle and bustle of life. What makes emotions like sadness, jealousy, anger, frustration and anxiety so hard to deal with is not just that they are heavy emotions, but that we often judge ourselves for feeling them. I have learned to stop judging the feeling of frustration, sadness and anxiety because I can recognize that they are temporary emotions serving their purpose. They are not reflective of me (or you) as a person.
But, in full honesty, anger is still an emotion I still struggle with a lot. In part because some part of me feels like being angry is a truly low vibrational state full of judgement and resentment. I don't want to shame myself for feeling a completely normal, human emotion. And for any of my other spiritual, manifesting queens, you will understand when I say that anger makes me feel the most spiritually unaligned (and kind of afraid of some kind of cosmic judgement/reaction). PS I talk all about manifestation and negative emotions in the QLQ email community, so if you've ever felt terrified that you would manifest things you don't want, I do encourage you to sign up!
In my reflection period, I decided that the new belief that I would plant is that I can be both spiritual and feel and embrace the full spectrum of emotions. As someone who spent 10+ years of her life emotionally numb, I am so grateful that I can connect with my emotions and embrace them. And I am folding the emotion of anger into that gratitude.
It's really hard for me to feel anger. Especially when I'm just not in a great mood and I am rampaging in my mind. "Fuck you, this person. Stop walking so slow, Moron. That's fucking dumb! Stupid bitch."😳 You can hear all of that judgement in that anger. I feel embarrassed even telling you that these thoughts come into my mind in my worst moods (which thankfully are far less). It makes me feel like a bad person, but I know that it is normal to have these thoughts from time to time because anger likes to lash out. We want to push the emotion away from us, so we project the root of the feeling outside of ourselves.
That's okay. In those moments, I remind myself that I don't actually think these things and make the conscious effort to follow the angry thought with a kind one, while also still accepting (and respecting) that the anger exists. It's truly a journey, but I am writing this to share that even when we feel our best and love ourselves so much, there is still healing we all do. No one is perfect.
I am also sharing this for all of my queens out there who feel the same shame/guilt around the emotion of anger and frustration. You can be spiritual and still feel anger. You can be manifesting epic shit and still have low vibration days. You are a human being and you are the universe. This is the beautiful line between both worlds that you walk.
Much Love, Always,
Shar
PS I am releasing a course to help women conquer their subconscious minds. The course is specifically designed to help you eliminate resistance, get clear on what you want and align with the life you desire. I am currently looking for beta testers for the course. If this interests you, you can sign up below and I will send you more information 😊