Happy Tuesday! Honest check in with how I am feeling. I just made the decision to quit my job and girl it was scary AF. But what I realized was that I've been saying I would do this for a long time. And each time I was waiting because it wasn’t the right time. Girl, it’s never going to be the right time.
I will always have bills. I will always need a place to live. I will always have responsibilities. And I realized that If I waited for a day where these things would not be as big of a barrier, I would be waiting forever. There was a day where I was walking to work. And time just flashed. I imagined that I was still walking down this path, and the stores had changed but nothing else had. I was no longer 25, I was 28, then 30, then 35 and then I was dead. And all I could see was me walking down this same path, watching the stores change around me and promising myself that I would change my reality once I had enough money to free fall. Less than 10 seconds had passed but everything changed.
I almost cried when I came back to myself. I knew that the Universe was showing me what my life would look like if I didn’t make the change. It was a powerful reminder that there is never a right time, but that this was my path. That I was meant to forge forward with this in spite of the fear.
Jump and the net will appear and all that.
I’m not saying that you have to quit your job, as you can find happiness exactly where you are at if you give yourself permission to have it. But I can be open with you all and say that I tried for years to be happy with where I was at, but when it came to work, I just couldn’t find it. I would wake up every day angry and annoyed no matter how much I worked on my mindset. I knew that something had to change. I would either need to have a shift in my mindset, or I would need to let go of my job. I tried to shift my mindset around this, but I couldn’t. And I now know it’s because it wasn’t meant for me, not because I didn’t have the willpower to change my mindset.
I believe in my emotional guidance system and I knew that staying where I was and trying to convince myself that I was happy was not working for me. And so, I jumped.
The fear has not magically disappeared. But I can say with confidence that what I feel the most is peace with my decision. I have faith that things will work out, but to the version of me that feels the fear I would say:
It’s okay that you’re afraid. This is something you’ve never done and you’re going against the status quo. I believe everything will work out beautifully, but my love, even if it doesn’t, you will be okay. I know deep in my soul, that my greatest regret will not be doing this and failing. It would be not taking the risk at all and dying with the dream in my heart. So, bad decision or amazing decision, I won’t know until I jump. But at least I will know that no matter what happens on the other side, I fucking went for it. And that will bring me more peace than I can know.
So, to all of my beautiful queens, I am going to leave you with this reminder. The greatest way you can take your power away is by believing you have no power at all. It took me almost two years to make this decision, so have patience with your journey. But I want to leave you with this question.
Where are you allowing life to happen to you? Where are you denying yourself?
Much Love, Always,
Shar