Today, I want to be real with you. I have been feeling super hype lately. I just turned 24 and I think this is one of the few birthdays that I actually feel my age. By this I mean that I feel like I have come into myself. This past year has challenged me to not only learn more about myself in a variety of contexts, but also to be comfortable with who I am at all times. More specifically, I see a lot of opportunities in my life and I am pursuing ventures and activities that at one point scared the shit out of me.
The jarring thing is that it feels like this came on quite suddenly. Obviously, I have been getting more comfortable with myself (and therefore more confident) gradually as I've put in the time to change my mindset. While I have noticed these small changes in myself and have been really happy when I realized that I was feeling so much better, this sudden change to absolute confidence (in most cases) has felt rather abrupt.
It's just like there was this switch. One minute I was striving to be my best self and the next I was her. I mentioned in my most recent blog post that I think it's a bit fucked up that I am so suspicious of this confidence, but assured you that it was okay to celebrate this.
However, I want to take you one step deeper. Given my history, I wondered if I was channeling someone else. I questioned if I was being Sharlene or if I was being the Sharlene I thought I should be (as opposed to the one I want to be). I wondered if I was riding some kind of bizarre high or if I was subconsciously overcompensating for some feelings of vulnerability that I was refusing to acknowledge.
So, while I celebrated and gave thanks for this amazing mood, I also made sure to frequently check in with myself to make sure I wasn't trying to bury some shit under layers of positive confidence (experience has taught me that what you push down comes back up in some fucking ugly ways). But, I want to note that I did not obsess over this. I just let the curiosity sit in myself and noticed whatever came up.
I came to the conclusion that the confidence I was feeling was genuine, and while I was feeling vulnerable in some arenas of my life, I was not trying to bury it behind confidence. I was not pretending to be anyone, I just stepped into the best version of me. I leveled up.
But I want to tell you what I realized and why I was questioning myself so hard (in hopes that it may help any of you who are struggling with an up level). I have spent the past year working on my mindset. I put everything into my development and to developing habits that would best help me become the best version of me. I spent the past year fucking questioning myself (with fantastic results)! I redefined my life, myself and my beliefs by questioning where I was at, where I wanted to go, what was holding me back, what I wanted to change, what I wanted to keep, why I was feeling ac certain way, if it was true etc... So no freaking duh that when I encountered what I thought was a sudden change, I questioned myself.
Instead of seeing this for the positive change that it was, I regarded it with questioning and suspicion. And that brings me to what I want to end this blog post with. My queen, I am all for self-exploration, but sometimes it's time to stop questioning yourself. Yes, grow and approach life with curiosity, but you don't need to be suspicious of every change that comes your way. I firmly believe that things come to you as you are meant to have them, so enjoy them! Trust me babe, you have fucking earned it.
Until next time!